#poc trans man

[jude-us]

As a brown trans boy it sucked so badly to watch those “gender envy” slides on tik tok and see only white boys with fluffy hair. It was a little thing but it made me feel invisible even in my own community. So these are men that look like me and give me gender envy. If you’re POC disabled/ don’t see your self in common trans discussions feel free to add on.

[andresmounts2]

Will never stop being envious of white trans guys who pass by just cutting their hair and binding.

[xenniboii]

Random things that make me feel euphoric as a trans guy:

- Basket ball shorts. IDK MAN ITS JUST LIKE “yea, this feels right”

- Hats, like. Baseball caps. They make me so happy and I also think I kinda look good too ^^

- My glasses. They shape my face so well and distracts from my feminine features

- Growing out my nails and hair. It just makes me feel so much more masculine! (Even though I have a nail biting problem 🥲)

- Online friends. The fact that they know or don’t know my deadname and still call me my preferred name, is just pure joy.

- Energy drinks. I have no explanation for this one idk 🤷🏽

- Watching “boys shows”. Ik it’s super stereotypical but yea.

Do what you will with this information, I just really wanted to share. Maybe share some things that make u feel euphoric too! (Sorry this isn’t my usual post, I’m just in a mood 💀)

[autisticthings]

Vent:

I hate that beauty standards are centered around white people. sure, I'm somewhat white passing, but all my facial features scream Indigenous American. I'm honestly more upset that I'm pale. I understand that I get white privilege, boy do I, but I honestly feel so ugly not having the beautiful dark skin my grandparents have, or the thick black hair.

I feel like I'm not indigenous and Mexican enough. but I'm also not white enough (especially since I'm not white). somewhere in between, not fitting in.

My tribe was colonized by Spaniards, I'll never know what it was like beforehand. I love being native but I'm just so depressed that we were colonized.

I just feel like I'm a fakey. I want to stay true to my roots, but how do I do that when they're so transphobic and religious in a way that looks down upon me?

[genderqueerdykes]

if you are a person of color and are struggling to understand or express your own gender because you do not and/or cannot conform to white beauty & gender standards you're not alone and you do not have to warp yourself to suit someone else's narrative- every culture on this planet has their own relationship with biological sex & gender and you do not have to mold yourself to suit gender roles that literally just don't exist in your cultures, or don't make sense to you

you do not have to try to change your face, hair or body to match standards that don't apply to you. you are allowed to approach gender in your own way, in whatever ways make sense to you. it's your life, your gender, your culture, your expression. you don't have to screw yourself over like that. good luck in finding the real you, you'll find them

[yourdailyqueer]

Faline San

Gender: Transgender man (he/they)

Sexuality: Bisexual

DOB: 30 April 2004

Ethnicity: Chinese

Nationality: Malaysian

Occupation: Youtuber

Note: Has ADHD and Epilepsy

[smiley-positivity-potato]

when i was a teen, i went by several nicknames in reference to my mood and how i dressed every day. due to how i spoke and acted different - many of my teachers and even other parents acknowledged it. i later learned this was a sign of me having D.I.D but it wouldn't be til this year that i would get the diagnosis. but due to that life interaction i realized something:

people were then more likely to respect me. by NOT saying my dead name then, when i presented as cis, they acknowledged my boundaries as a teen. but as an adult, people seemed to all of SUDDEN lose the ability to adapt. they'd ask for my help remembering my new name then be ENRAGE for me doing so. in fact, a lot of past loved ones and friends would get UPSET with me for trying to HELP them with remembering my name- like they had kindly suggested, and agreed to, beforehand.

when i transitioned, AND legally changing my name and gender, and everything, things revolving around my identity were labelled difficult and wrong. all of a sudden, it was all a problem. and sadly, a lot people showed their true colors.

it was the first time I ever experienced just how quickly a label could make and break a fragile or strong seeming relationship. It was baffling, dumbfounding, and most of all upsetting. For a lot of these people saw me grow up, and they saw how miserable i was. but since i was also manic and funny, they had mistaken that and my confined misery for joy.

i learned that true friends and loved ones will ask and check on you to see when and if you're hurting. even if you think no one wants to hear you. they'll be overjoyed as you change and they'll want to change with you as well. they'll love you for trying to find happiness and will ask you how to respect you as you find it. and you will do the same.

before i was out as a non-binary transmasc, everyone would barely utter my dead name. but once i came out, i had to demand that they didn't say it ever again.

[mysharona1987]

[the-transgenda-agenda]

I finally managed to snap a photo of this billboard. For some reason I never had my phone out whenever I passed previously.

[princessefemmelesbian]

Transandrophobia truthers are so damn racist and white oh my fucking god y'all actually piss me the fuck off every time you tokenize Black and brown men for your stupid as fuck "mra but make it trans-inclusive" ideology created by a creepy guy with a corrective rape fetish(something I'll never let up on for as long as I live, btw). If I ever see another one of y'all say "Black and brown men face discrimination because they're seen as overly masculine and that's why masculinity in men is oppressed in this society" I will literally kill myself. Stop using Black and brown men as brownie points for your bullshit arguments about misandry being real when you don't have the slightest idea how racialized oppression works. White boys are so annoying and dumb istfg.

@punkeropercyjackson @punknicodiangelo @pinkpinkstarlet

[jude-us]

trans boys of color I love you all so much. You’re not a freak or an aggressive monster or a mistake. I’m so sorry you have to deal with so much bullshit from people in your communities but you’re perfect and whole and you’re gonna be just fine.

[roman-roy-apologist]

yeah ok i get it you don’t think transandrophobia exists but you do realize that it’s still bad to be shitty to transmascs right? you get that right?

[noahswifi]

I forgot this filter exists now it runs everything I do and I must consult with the filter before any major decisions. Here for the trans d*ke pirate representationnnnnn 🥺🤌🏾

[andresmounts2]

Stop ignoring the existence of black trans men.

Stop making black trans men have to jump through additional hoops to be gendered correctly.

Stop calling black trans men studs.

Stop ignoring the fact that black trans men are automatically seen as a threat if they pass as a cis man.

Stop wanting black trans men to give up their blackness to appease you and make you more comfortable.

[uncanny-tranny]

At this point, gender nonconformity is about what the person says their experience is.

If a woman with a beard or a man with lipstick and a mustache says they're gender nonconforming, then they are! If a woman with short hair or a man with long hair says they aren't, they aren't! And that's not even getting into the awesome nonbinary, abinary, genderqueer, intersex, and general genderfuckery that may both be and not be conforming.

So much of what is even considered gender conforming or gender nonconforming is based on a world of exclusion. When we start defining one's conformity with whether they fit into white cishetero perisex standards or not, we play into the idea that there's only a very narrow window of what is considered worthy of time and thought.

[abyssal-debonair]

You’re a grown man with the trauma of a little girl. ... I don’t mean that trans men cannot speak about the misogyny they experienced; it’s just now, most people will look at me and not see the layers of patriarchal violence I experienced. The song “Sweet Cis Teen” asks: Am I a boy or am I just my trauma? But all of my experiences did not magically disappear the moment(s) I realized I am a man, nor were they left behind. It was traumatic being a Chinese woman. I was spat at, harassed, fetishized, assaulted, told that my worth depended on others, my experience and abilities invalidated. My bodymind holds these memories and shapes itself with them, and I do not want to trivialize these memories because they continue to inform who I am and my politics.

this entire essay is worth a read, but the quotations I pulled out are the ones that strike me deeply, being the most relatable to my own FtM experience.